Note: For those of you who dint understand the tittle.. it’s very unlikely that you will go on to read my post… but still as i would assume it to be my moral responsibility… the tittle “Break ke Baad” (in Hindi) suggests “After a Break”
It’s been sooooooooooo long… and i feel like i don’t know how to blog anymore. And when i say long… I really do mean long… my last post was in January 2011
It’s amazing what a little Appreciation and few Encouraging words can do to you.
RETHINKING: makes me realize … two years back… I had a very dear friend who relentlessly and sometimes with unnecessary praising pushed me towards writing. Today unfortunately, we aren’t that close anymore.. Mainly because we are a couple of countries apart now !
An old article i read recently – ‘The Art of the Compliment’ published on Psychology Today’s website [http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200403/the-art-the-compliment] evidently credits compliments for playing a vital role in creating a positive social atmosphere and enhancing the chances of favorable outcomes almost by MAGIC.
OR SO IT SEEMS
Compliments very effectively boost confidence and aid self-esteem. It’s as if like we humans are hungry for it! Every action we undertake, if welcomed with appreciative words becomes a reason for us to be filled with pride.
But, like i have always believed… everything in average amounts is acceptable. If you let these get to your head and heavily influence your direction of thought [OH dear are you in trouble then].
Excessive compliments are bound to make compliment seekers vain. Vanity is a clear attribute of an egotistical maniac. There is a very thin line at the edge of having a good self – esteem … half a step forward and you are into the vanity zone ! Compliment those who accept your compliments with grace. Your precious words are wasted on people who believe compliments are their birth right (NOT HAPPENING AT ALL!).
Furthermore, there is another case of extremist, people who believe they don’t deserve compliments AT ALL. People with wounded self -esteems. So heavily affected that they sometimes can’t help but think that someone who compliments them is doing it out of pity or is just being insincere!
And then there are those who live to do things just to impress people around them and earn compliments. It’s a rat race for them… for most people who fall into this category, begin this race in their school years. At that stage it could be as good as wanting to be the first student to solve a problem so that the teacher pats your back. People who overdo it are actually funny to watch. Once you start interpreting their actions and understand that their only intention behind anything they do is to look good to others and gain compliments, they become hilarious. [Trust me look for a person of this kind among the people you know, I am sure you will find at least one.!]
Moving on, what about the people we know who are truly just misers when it comes to appreciating or praising someone. It’s almost like they are hoarding up compliments [big haha]. Some psychologists suggest that these people are very insecure and therefore don’t allow themselves to appreciate others even if they deserve it !
Mark Twain was noted to have said: “I can live for two months on a good compliment”
Try explaining this sentence to yourself. I personally believe a good compliment isn’t the one that has been said using the most beautiful words, but the compliment that just comes from the compliment givers heart and you would know you deserve it. People may not always be liberal with words, but you would know that a pleasant smile and a simple “good” are worth it.
P.S. – compliment someone with sincerity !
Baretruth 